Luckily, my girls have lots of time to grow and develop into who they’re meant to be. Perfection in this context is a belief; it’s a part of connection and understanding!
If you don’t believe your child is perfect, it’s a problem. I am a firm believer that parents should support and honor their children no matter what because children are perfect. They’re the perfect version of themselves in this moment, and we should always love and support them.
Does this mean we believe they can do no wrong? No, of course not. Does this mean we should support and not SHAME them when they DO wrong? Absolutely.
If you’re a parent and you don’t believe you have PERFECT children, then there is room to grow in your connection with them. Safety, love, empathy, and co-regulation set the foundation for a perfectly attuned life with our children.