Your Presence is Present Enough


A family greeting one another with presents.“Your presence is present enough” are the words written at the bottom of all our party invitations. I firmly mean it when I say it is just your presence that means the most to our family.

We don’t have a large or traditional family. We are blessed to have a family of friends and a few relatives who comprise our “people.”

When I started this request at birthday parties and holidays celebrated with gifts, it was to combat the clutter and the closets full of forgotten “things.” Over time I see that it is the moments, not the things, that my children remember most.

Taking a trip to New York for Easter and all the delicious goodies Aunt B makes, playing games with our fun Uncle J on Christmas, the friends who are there to sing “Happy Birthday” each year, visits from Aunt M and Uncle S, gardening with them in the backyard, and experiences with friends are what get talked about most when we bring up holidays and special memories.

Thanksgiving is the only holiday traditionally my husband and I spend alone. The day is filled with watching the parade, football, and food. As parents, I add crafts and three kitchen helpers to the day. This year my eight-year-old began asking, “Who can come to our Thanksgiving?”

The day of, she looked a bit lost and asked again why no one had joined us for the holiday. The questions broke me apart. Just like her, I look forward to having people around us. I won’t always be able to give my children everything, but I can request something they seek, which is your presence.

Mom and Dad will happily fulfill their wish list for everything they desire (except for the swing set that’s been asked for the second consecutive year). Our home is still far from minimalist. I only ask that you give my children what I can’t.

If you want to get my children something they need, make sure to add trips to the diner, days at the park, cheering for them on the sidelines and at recitals, face timing to see a lost tooth, and adventures in the backyard to the list.

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Jamie is a mom to a daughter (2014) and boy/girl twins (2016). She was born and raised in Westchester County, NY and together with her husband (married in 2011), made Danbury, CT their hometown. Jamie is a real estate agent with William Raveis Real Estate. In the present day, more than ever before, “home” is an essential and safe place in an ever-changing world. Helping clients achieve their homeownership goals, searching for the home that’s “just right,” or helping them move on from a home that no longer serves them drives Jamie in her real estate career. Home for Jamie is Northern Fairfield County, and she never gets tired of spending time in the community with her family, visiting her favorite parks, and exploring local shops and restaurants. Jamie can be found on the Peloton leaderboard at 6:30 every morning, which fuels her long days of work and momming. Morning workouts are as athletic as she gets, and her favorite thing is tucking her children in at night and catching up on whatever show she is streaming. As much as she loves staying in, she doesn’t pass up a night out with her childhood girlfriends or a date night with her hubby. 


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