Just Say NO to Calendar Overdrive


calendar overdriveIt’s important to say YES to yourself as a person and do things that make you happy. But sometimes, you need to say NO to calendar overdrive in order to preserve your happiness. 

I yearn for warmer weather, outdoor activities, and opportunities for casual social gatherings all winter long. There is always a flurry of invitations.

Sure, I can make that baby shower.

Awesome, looking forward to your birthday party.

Moms’ night out? Fantastic, sign me up.

But soon, calendar overdrive takes over.

Grrr, another event on that day?

Rock, paper, scissors, who goes to what this weekend.

How much time are we spending at the party versus driving to and from the party?

Then add in work, and the regular afterschool activities and sports. Most Sunday nights, I collapse into bed and ask, “Where did the weekend go?” So, I decided to regroup and start clean.

I took my calendar out, color-coded and all, and started thinking about myself and the quality of life I wanted for my family. 

I’ll be honest, the first 3-4 events I took off the calendar were hard.

Oh, but they always come to our party.

We haven’t seen them in so long.

By the fifth scratched-off obligation, I felt like a weight was lifted. Maybe only one event a weekend was all we needed as a family with two working parents so we could actually enjoy family time.

There are some weekends that we are still a little more programmed than I’d like, but as a friend said, “There are worse things than having a lot of people that want to hang out with you.” True, but I think I like my family and downtime a little more these days.

We are trying to transition the whole family to have fewer electronics and more outdoor time, less time being shuttled around in a car, and more time just playing.

By saying “no” more to the outside world, I’m actually still saying “yes” to me in the best way possible!

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Maria Sette
Maria is a full-time mom, teacher, wife, daughter, and sister, who feels pulled in too many directions! Her older son Michael took over 24 hours to be born, and at six-months-old was diagnosed with allergies to dairy, eggs, nuts, soy, shrimp, and wheat…all after exclusively nursing because she was SO SURE that would help him be a healthy kid. Luckily at age 1, he began to outgrow some of his allergies. Fingers crossed the others will soon follow because that plus a husband who doesn’t eat any veggies and Maria always battling her weight makes for three meals to prepare every night. Luckily, Christopher, her younger son, is a cooperative eater! As someone who has always been committed to making positive change, Maria uses her privilege and position as an educator and mom to work toward a most anti-racisit, equitibile, and inclusive world. Recently, Maria has even started getting up at 5am to workout in her basement. (Thank you pandemic living!) She is addicted to reading chicklit on her Kindle app in the dark, most Trader Joe’s products, and watching TikToks.



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