Finding Peace and Discovering Who I Am


A mother hugging her daughter.Peace has been something that has been missing from my life for years.

At first, I thought it was just a result of all the unhappiness and drama in my life over the past two years. I ultimately concluded that peace is something that one creates from within. But how do I make peace in my life? Finding my peace has everything to do with figuring out who I am.

I very clearly know what did NOT create peace in my life.

It was all of the people, places, and emotions that I knew I could no longer cling to. But did I know what peace was? Had I ever really had it to begin with? I wasn’t sure.

I made many decisions in my life, especially in the last few years, because I was afraid of being alone. Being alone was my biggest fear because I had always thought that as I got older, I would have a partner to live through life with. I feared what I would discover about myself if I was alone.

Truthfully, I realized I never really knew myself at all. Now, at age 40, I have to find out who that woman, mother, friend, and daughter is. That identity has been solely a wife and mother for the past ten years.

In 2024, while I am still very much a mother (although I am still exploring that identity), I am no longer a wife. A little over a year ago, I would not have been content with losing that identity. Being alone, while incredibly frightening and emotional at first, has been nothing but freeing and a second chance at recreating my identity in life.

So, who am I? I am whoever I want to be at this point. I want to think that at this time, I am a good mother, friend, and daughter, and in the next year, I hope to add more to this list. The truth is that finding peace in who I am is ever-evolving.

Have you ever had a change in life where you have had to rediscover yourself?

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Lindsay, a newly-single mom, lives in Trumbull with her three crazy kids (girl – 2016, and boy-girl twins – 2020) and Harley, their Shih Tzu in her twilight years. Originally from the windy city of Chicago, Lindsay came out East in 2018 and has finally accepted it as her home. With a strong background in the hospitality industry, Lindsay decided to make a career change post-pandemic and is now in sales for assisted living communities. Outside of spending time with her young children and family, Lindsay enjoys volunteering for her children’s schools, meeting new friends, and trying new restaurants.


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