Stop Trying to Be the Best Mom

We all long to hear those words, “Oh, you are the best mom ever!” I’ve said it to others and sincerely come from a place of admiration. When I think about it, though, it comes from a place of insecurity. I’m comparing myself to another mom, or my own mom, and applauding how much I think she is doing a much better job than myself.

I’ve realized I must stop trying to be the best mom because this imaginary person doesn’t exist. 

The best and perfect parent isn’t out there. She isn’t you; she is not your friend, neighbor, sister, or mom. The best moms are not what you see on social media. She can’t be found in the pages of books. Every mother out there has walked a different path than you. Stop looking for how you can be the best mom. You can’t be.

Always being in a state of wonder if we are the best will only lead to more of the same insecurity. How about we stop that right now. Stop judging and accept ourselves for who we are and what we are doing at this moment in time.

Comparison is a depression trap. When we constantly compare ourselves and see how we measure up to whatever standard we picture in our head, we’ll never know if we are doing it right. Guess what? You are doing it right.

Do you love your kids? Are they fed and have a roof over their heads? Are you taking care of yourself? Sometimes taking a step back and looking at those simplicities is all we need to see the big picture. Even if times are tough, I’m sure you are doing everything you can to do your best. Your effort and love is all you can do. It’s all that is needed. You are a great mom. We don’t have to strive to be the best mom.

Say it out loud right now, “I am a great mom.” Supermoms are not required. The best mom badge needs to go in the trash. Put your strongest effort forth and trust in that confidence.