A little while back, I wrote about how I needed to step up my game for my twins and nurture their friendships. Since then, they have moved on to a new school with the same classmates and friends, but they have been moved around. Last year was a whole new year to meet new friends and support existing friendships.
While I’ve been trying to support their individual friendships and the overlapping ones, I’ve realized something – I’m doing the majority of the coordinating of their plans and play dates.
While I have been stepping it up for them, I’m realizing it’s a little one-sided. Don’t get me wrong, I know we’re all swamped with activities, but I wish I were being reached out to more to socialize with them.
It turns out I’m not alone. I was speaking with another twin mom, and she is having the same issue, and her sister also has twins who experienced the same thing. “It’s because people don’t want two of them,” which was the reason her sister gave.
Now, I am wondering if people are hesitant to invite both of my girls, or if they’re afraid that inviting only one will cause issues.
I hope that is not the case. If one of my twins is close to your child and the other not so much, it’s totally okay just to invite one. If you love both of them, that’s awesome, but it’s okay to include only one, depending on their relationship.
I’m not speaking for every twin parent, but if parents have concerns about inviting our twins to something, just ask us. We’ll be happy you’re including our kids to have fun with yours!
